TEXT Me

So i have a question because i am a little confused. How is that nowadays guys only text when we are supposed to be "talking'? I was thinking maybe it was something that has come with the new times but either way its still problematic. If you are trying to get to know someone you just met wouldnt u want to call before you text just to hear this new voice that was music to your ears? I guess not...I dont know what the case is but i do know that everything cant be sent via text message, i.e. emotions, sense of humor, & passion and that's why so many things start off misunderstood. Its not that hard to pick up the phone. It actually takes longer to text. They say avoid texting while driving well if u really trying to get to know a woman, avoid texting.

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Does your Dick Define You?

Lately i have been wanting to ask the men i encounter if their worth is dependent on their dick. I know that sounds harsh but nowadays it seems like "men' only can offer the physical. Don't get me wrong casual sex can be a good thing but when they are trying to pursue a relationship with someone and the only way they can express themselves is by putting it down in the bedroom then there is a problem. So ive been "talking" to this dude for a short time now but based on his questions and answers,it was clear that he didn't just want a fling, but then he starts asking questions like what's your favorite position? Tell me how that counts as a good question to ask anyone, especially if you are trying to get to know them. I'm young yes, so i do want someone who is fun but there is a thin line between spontaneity and humor and disrespect and stupidity. I don't know, it just seems like dudes are either lacking some internal qualities so they have to make up for it with sex OR they are too afraid of something deeper so they stick with what they know.

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Wack!

Wack! Is the only way to describe these "men" i have encountered. I know that i can be a tough cookie but imma need these dudes to grow sum balls. I know this sounds bad but if one more dude tries to holler at me and cant hold a conversation that talks about something else besides how good I look then im gonna scream! If i dont come across a guy that can just say that he wants to fuck my brains out instead of playin this im interested in you game then im gonna scream!(Shoot im horny too,we can have sum casual fun but if ur too scared 2 be forward then ur gonna miss out) If i meet another guy who has too much pride to just say that he wants to spend time w/ me instead of just staring at me all crazy and making awkard convo then im gonna scream! We got 1 life to live, if u afraid to live it then dont look my way.

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I am a Poet...Thank God

I just listened to my own spoken word performance and i cried, laughed, sat still, and shook my head...i was able to tap into emotions again by just listening....i realize now that this is what i was called to do....

http://www.twitvid.com/VUU8E

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Stop Doing the Shit

So i had an epiphany today! While i sat at my computer huffing and puffing and almost breaking down in tears because i had decided to lock my self inside today because 1. i want to avoid people who reminds me of reality and 2. to finish all these tasks that i have constantly put off for no reason at all besides wanting to fail (laziness is u just deciding to fail), I realized that this ...is some bullshit and its shit that I..CREATED.

I know that sometimes you have to go down the same road a few times to really learn and grow from it but when does that cycle stop? I know that i have learned from everything i have went through but that does not mean i can make an excuse for them.

We are human so we will go through breakups and just want to run away. We are human so we will go through times where we will think about giving up. We are human so there will be times when we break down, but because we are human we also have control over so much of it. No we can not control everything that happens but we have CONTROL OVER OUR REACTION TO IT.

I am behind in work and the simplest tasks because i chose to allow it to consume me. I am afraid to see my ex and his new friend and my mom and my friends because they remind me that I AM NOT CONTROLLING MY REACTION....But that ends now...i know its easier said than done but it starts with a change of mind...(and things can ALWAYS be worse so im done w/ this self-pity)

Forgive many things in others; nothing in yourself. If i keep forgiving myself for the same mistakes how do i expect to stop doing the shit

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Emotion Never Lie, & Emotion Never Lies Still

FACT : Although females tend to display generally higher levels of emotions than males, the expression of anger, pride, and loneliness are more frequent in males. FACT: Because anger is socially acceptable for men, traditionally gender-typed men tend to convert most other emotions into anger, often resulting in DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR & a LACK OF AWARENESS OF THE ORIGINAL EMOTION... Why you may ask? Men show more anger, and pride because they are made to believe that feelings are for women, and so they only express the two that are acceptable which are anger and pride and through these two come all of the rest of their emotions. In result of these emotions being turned into something they aren't they are not truly expressed, confusing the man and whoever he is expressing them to.....Please let our men speak, and feel...why would they feel something if its not supposed to be expressed?

FACT: Restrictive emotionality is one of the most frequently discussed issues in men's studies, & it is thought 2 underlie a number of other problems for men, including relationship difficulties, physical illness, mental health problems, & violence. Masculine gender roles often encourage men to resist the awareness of affect, avoid emotional vulnerability, & DISGUISE their feelings, especially when those feelings involve HURT, FEAR, SADNESS, or any experience that signals WEAKNESS or LACK OF CONTROL.....that says enough...we all were given emotions to help us grow and by doing so we have to express them...in my opinion, a REAL man or woman will say how they feel no matter what..if no one knows the true problem how can it be fixed? If she doesnt know you love her why would would she think you do?

EXPRESS YOURSELF BECAUSE EMOTIONS NEVER LIE & EMOTIONS NEVER LIES STILL (sooner or later they are gonna act out and its always best that they act out with you leading them) ..Enjoy, Be inspired, SPEAK

Take the Kinks out your Mind, Not your Hair

LONG TRESSES DOWN TO THE FLOOR CAN BE BEAUTIFUL, IF YOU HAVE THAT, BUT LEARN TO LOVE WHAT YOU HAVE. ♥♥



"We have the same spiral in our hair as electricity, tornadoes, whirlwinds, DNA, galaxies!"

-Nekhena Evans





I am always relieved and joyful when I influence a woman's decision to stop putting chemicals on her scalp...
-Pamela Ferrell





Hair style is the final tip-off whether or not a woman really knows herself. ~Hubert de Givenchy





Women.... Who made 'em? God must have been a... genius. Their hair. They say that the hair is everything, you know? Have you ever buried your nose in a mountain of curls, and just wanted to go to sleep forever? ~Bo Goldman





Let us dance in the sun, wearing wild flowers in our hair... ~Susan Polis Shutz





In nature, nothing is perfect and everything is perfect. Trees can be contorted, bent in weird ways, and they're still beautiful.
Alice Walker





Things are beautiful if you love them.
- Jean Anouilh

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Soo this was supposed to be a fb status but it was too long ...lol

Soo this was supposed to be a fb status but it was too long ...lol and i had a ball writing it and i really needed to get it off my chest.People will say that im hype and and that i should just move on so i will just say it for them ;-) I grow thru speaking my mind, So enjoy, laugh, be inspired..peace

Taneisha....is writing my own song, i aint gonna make it hell n ur life but 4real i am just gonna walk on by, I must admit I really thought u had potential But I could not have been more wrong I need somebody I can trust with his essentials, & no this isnt a song 2 humiliate u but tell me what girl was ever this true, & eventho im still singin i hate that i love u i know my worth & it makes me sick 2 my stomache(literally) 2 know that im bein played a fool...(shout out 2 all the dudes who want 2 walk in a man's shoes) ...good girl gone bad , i think imma enjoy this

Am I Grieving?

When discussing the feeling joy in my Men In Transition class it really stayed with me when someone described it as something that cannot be expressed through words. We were discussing joy because it is the healing for grief. I came to grasp two things during this class period that grief is also a feeling that cannot be expressed nor healed with words and I also realized that I was grieving.

When you hear that someone is grieving don’t you automatically think that it’s in result of someone passing away? Well you’re not alone because until me and my ex broke up in November I too only thought a person grieved when a loved one died. When I heard the characteristics of grief in class and decided to research it further, I was shocked with what I had uncovered.

I started dating one of my best friends when I was sixteen and after three years that consisted of him wanting to marry me and then beginning to put me down and finally cheating we broke up, and we have to remember that this was my best friend. After him I dated an old Upward Bound friend who I never seen myself with but once we got together I seen us being together for forever because he was just what I needed. Surprisingly that relationship took a very sour turn in what seemed like an instant when I found out that he used drugs on Valentine’s Day and he turned on me making me terrified of him by turning on me as if I wasn’t even a person who he knew. After him I did not think that I would want to be in a relationship anytime soon but about three months after we separated at the age of twenty and the end of my junior year I had started seeing a friend of a friend who was only going into his sophomore year. The fact that he was younger than me actually did not stand out the most but it was the fact that I never felt more like myself with anyone. This sounds hard to believe because I had been with my best friend for three years and a guy who seemed perfect for me. This was also hard to grasp because just like he had the best impact in my life he also brought the most pain.

The dictionary defines grief as keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss and that’s exactly what I felt when my ex ended our relationship. He and I went strong for six months which was his longest relationship and which felt like mine because of its depth. I wrote a poem about him in which I said that he “was the closest I had come to being completely whole with someone” and that was just a small piece to why in the end I felt like I did. Not to mention our break up ended suddenly when he said that he had to talk to me about something but it was nothing I should worry about. He had decided that he just didn’t want a girlfriend (he was not ready for the relationship), and I said well that’s the best decision because you deserve to be happy too but I had no idea what I had in store for my future.

I knew the facts. I knew that it all came down to that he did not want to be with me. I knew that what I was giving him wasn’t enough to make him stay even though he said I was everything he asked for in a women. I was aware of all the facts and because of that I thought I knew exactly how to cope. Unfortunately I thought that I would react the same way I did to every other break up but just like when a love one dies one goes through a period in which words cannot express the feelings tearing you down inside I went through the same thing. I did not expect grief as a result of a break up but that’s because it wasn’t until my feelings became unbearable that I realized just like when one loses a loved one I had loss another person that was deeply connected with me, a connection I thought could not be made with a bloodline.

* Because i did not realize what type of wound i had to heal i dealt with it in all the wrong ways. That's why it is important to take time out to analyze your life individually in order to really deal with things.

Here is the link to a few poems about this guy...
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/note.php?note_id=119453470848
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbCdbJSiPHE

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Real Talk (get to know me)

So this is my first blog on Feb 5, 2010. I have been wanting to do this for a while because at the age of 20( 21 in 5 days! holler) I REALIZE THAT I WAS PUT HERE TO SPEAK...♥ With that being said i want to tell some random things about me so that you can get to know me a little better.

-i hate for things to get stuck in my teeth
-I want to have fun everyday ..yup everyday its a beautiful thing
- ive never been so in luv.....yet i cant share it...1 of the hardest things 2 deal with
- i listen to Melanie Fiona, Algebra, Rihanna, & Jazmine Sullivan everyday..can u say addict
- ive realized that i will never truley accept my grandpop not being here..
- i really want to make a whole new life 4 my mom, she deserves so much more
- im missing talkn to my roomey
-i hate blueberries, strawberry flavored foods/candy, brussel sprouts, & squash
- ive really had a few real life stalkers and i aint even famous yet lol but seriously
- i luv Love ...
- without music i will be wacko like foreal, i have 2 listen to music all day
- i had sex wit sum1 who had a gf...(big mistake but i learned from it)
- it took me a long time 2 be completely open w/ everyone i know but i am now & its a wonderful feeling
- I didnt want 2 leave college without pledging for a sorority but everything happens 4 a reason
- i can be a stalker at times
- All jokes aside i thought of being wit my gf...becuz no one is more perfect for me (think what u want but im being real)
- Im REAL
- Im Natural now! yea baby
- i work out like 5 times a week
- i almost died when i was younger & i only ever old two of my best friends not even my mom
- i fell on my butt when in London in the rain

- Real name - Mykia Taneisha Shaw
Nickname(s) → T.Shaw, Tanny, Tan, Pendis, T, Tan Boo Tammy, Tane Sha, Pendishaw..etc..:)
Zodiac sign → Aquarius
Male or female → Female
Elementary School → Word of Life & American Christian
Middle School →Chester Charter
High School → Chester High.
Hair color → uuh brownish reddish blackish lol idk
Long or short → short
Loud or Quiet → ask my friends
Sweats or Jeans → tights
Phone or Camera → Camera
Health freak → naw
Drink or Smoke? → occasional sips
Do you have a crush on someone? → maybe
Eat or Drink → eat im a fatty
Piercings ----> ears
Tattoos → 4 going on 8 :-)

HAVE YOU EVER?
Been in an airplane → yea twice
Been in a relationship--> Yes
Been in a car accident - no
Been in a fist fight → a few times surprisingly

FIRSTS:
First piercing → Ears
First best friend → Shaneice & Ashley they are still my gurls
First award →not sure
First crush → Marquise..i cant believe i remember that lol
First big vacation- im working on it

LASTS:
Latest person you talked to --> My roomey
Latest person you texted → Ish
Latest person you watched a movie with - The Fresh Crew(just a name i have for my best friends)
Latest food you ate → turkey and cheese sandwich
Latest movie you watched → Mean Girls
Latest song you listened to → Naked by Serani
Latest thing you bought → a muffin..told u im a fatty
Latest person you hugged - my gf (my bestfriend but she literally goes by girlfriend ;--)

FAVES:
Food → Spaghetti
Drink--> apple juice
Clothing → skinny leg jeans and a wife beater
Flower → white rose
Animal → dog
Colors → purple, black, brown...weird combo
Movies- Waiting to Exhale, Save the Last Dance, Love and Basketball
Subjects →Philosophy

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